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Today on LoveRomanceRelationship.com we are very fortunate to be talking with our good friend Rori Raye, and we’ll be doing a detailed review of Rori’s ideas and products. Now, while we may know a lot about Rori, a lot of our readers may not, so we persuaded her to sit with us and have a conversation about how she actually got started with being a relationship guru, giving advice on relationships and how some of her products came about Hey Rori. Rori: Hi Steve.
Steve: Let’s jump right in because I know there are probably lots of people out there that know plenty about you, but I would also imagine there are many who don’t. How did you get started in the area of relationship advice?
Rori: That’s a great question. Long ago, it feels like, my husband (who’s an executive coach) insisted that I was a “natural” coach. So I went to coaching schoolit took about a year and a half to get all the way through the program and then I started becoming a life coach.
In the process of beginning a coaching practice I realized what I really was meant to do was coach women in relationships – because of my own personal story of how my love life had been such a disaster almost my whole life. How I managed to pull myself together enough to meet my husband and “get” him to marry me. The fairytale came true – and then I almost destroyed my marriage doing the same things that I had done the rest of my life. My story was about how I worked my way out of that very quickly. I and my clients discovered that I was able to help women one-on-one in coaching calls to actually do what I had done, and quickly. So I started creating workshops, and in the workshops I created paperwork for themand then that grew into a book, which was my first product – my book that really lays out the five keys to a great relationship.
It explains the whole masculine/feminine process and it really begins my most foundational Tools: Feeling Messages, Overfunctioning, the Four Rulesand that got it started. Before I knew it I had met you who is a genius, incomparable genius, who had helped my husband with his websitesand now you began to help me on my website as CoachRori and that’s how we got started. The rest, as they say, is history. The business just grew and grew and grew and I realized that I needed to go more in detail from the foundation of the book and so I created programs around a sort of seven step process that I realized every woman was going through who went through my system, my Rori Raye system.
Steve: I remember those days. It was kind of crazy times I must admit. Rori: Shocking. Steve: If I remember rightly, when you released your eBook, it really did seem to take on a life of its own. I know you’d done the workshops and all that kind of stuff before, so you really knew the people not only needed this stuff, but really resonated with it and the eBook really took off. What I’m hearing you say is that once people were getting into the eBook and then emailing back to you and talking with you, that there were some other pieces that people needed – kind of more in depth stuff.
Rori: That’s it. Essentially, what I do that is, I feel, different from everything else out there – is I’m about the “How-To.” I create these tools that are five second, 10 second tools you can do any time you need them.
You can do them throughout the day. They’re transformative, but fun and quick and easy and I give them all names and they make sense. For example – the whole process of us women instinctively needing to control men. That’s a big concept, and I’m able to break that down into images that mean somethinginto physical expressions like: Imagining clenching your hands and then imagine you’re holding onto a man’s shirt and what that feels like and what that might feel like to him.
These are really quick ways to feel in your body what the word “control” means, and “surrender” is simply letting go – like letting go of his shirt in the image of holding onto his shirtsometimes just letting go with two fingers. I break down very large, seemingly difficult and challenging concepts and transformational concepts into tiny little do-able “Tools” – and the Tools just kept coming to me while I was coaching women. They just kept showing up – new one after new one – and I started to see the main situational places where women needed to use them.
It’s not just: “Have the relationship you want. Driving Log Sheet For Drivers Ed there. ” It’s also “How do I get him to commit? I’m in a relationship with a man, how do I get him to commit?” So I created my Commitment Blueprint program, in which I really explain how a man’s Relationship Timeline is so completely different from ours, a woman’s timeline. Your Timeline, Steve, is different from mine. How the process of dating feels different to a man – how we women tend to call it “relationship” way too quickly – and yet how men tend to demand some kind of exclusivity from women way too quickly, and I really create a whole visual of how this works and the concept I call Bridging.
How you’re going across your “Bridge” to your Happy Ever After and how – every step of the way – how to get yourself there, and how to get with a man who will lead you there. And then all kinds of Tools along the way.
Commitment Blueprint is a long, amazing program, which I broke into seven steps of a process. And those seven steps turned out to be very powerful, so I’ve created more programs that go into depth in each one of those steps. That’s how it kind of works. In Commitment Blueprint I break it down to Step One as intellectually understanding the dynamic between you and a man. I call this the Energy Bubble. Then there are all kinds of tools around that – like one of my most well-known ones: Leaning Back.
How the dynamic works between you and a man. How if you “Lean Forward,” a man leans back. If you “Lean Back,” a man leans forward – and how that works in an energetic kind of intellectual sense. Then Step Two starts with what you have to stop doing.
What you need to undo. All the things that you’ve been doing that are not working.
Then Step Three I call The Invitation, which is What do you do instead of all the things you’re doing that don’t work – and The Invitation became a program called Modern Siren. Then Step Four is about managing your emotions – because once you stop doing things that you’ve been doing your whole life, patterns that are not working for you – you’re going to start to feel. Emotions are going to start to come up. Emotions that you’ve been trying to hide by doing all of those things that don’t work. I have a whole mass of Tools around what to do with those emotions when they come up, so you can deal with fear and you can deal with anxiety and actually kind of disappear the ways they’ve been showing up that are getting in your way, and instead USE the power of your emotions to get more of what you want with a man, more love, affection, tenderness, sex, everything. The Fifth Step is about loving yourself, which has become a big thing on the web, but I created small, very do-able tools for you to begin to love all parts of yourself, so that a man can love you.
My Sixth Step I call Circular Dating. It’s a concept I came up with, which I created a whole other program around called Targeting Mr.
Circular Dating is not just about dating. It’s not just about getting a bunch of numbers of men around you, although it’s kind of crucial that you do that.
What it is – Circular Dating is practicing my tools “in the field.” It is every time you speak to a man on the street or behind the counter at a market or in a coffeehouse, every time you smile at a man, you’re having a Circular Date. It can be a boy.
It can be an older man. It can even be a woman. It simply means you’re using my whole extensive toolkit of speaking and feeling, of using Feeling Messages, of sticking to my Four Rules, of all kinds of emotional tools and word tools and “Scripting” tools – and you’re practicing them out in the field. That’s what Circular Dating is. And it can look like actual dating, it looks like dating more than three men at a time – and I explain how to do that in Targeting Mr.
The Seventh Step – I call it Change Everything, which is about putting it all together to actually “shift your vibe.” In other words, you can change your hair. You can change the clothes you wear, the colors you wear and surround yourself with – all those things actually make an impact on how you feel about yourself.
They actually do make a shift in your “vibe” and also the things you change on your inside. The routine you have from morning to night. What you think. What you think about what you think. What you think about what you believe.
All of these things change your vibe and that is Step Seven. What I do in Commitment Blueprint is basically help you get this relationship to your “Happy Ever After” and that led me to Modern Siren, that is my most popular program and was a big surprise! Steve: The thing that I’m hearing is that each time you go through this process of helping people, other things come up and as is often the case, something that you originally think is just a small step, people say, “Oh, I want to know more about that,” and I guess that’s where Modern Siren came from. It was a step in Commitment Blueprint, which then kind of grew to become its own system, product, toolset, yes? Rori: Exactly, and it’s actually kind of shocking.
When I did it, I didn’t expect anybody to really get it in such a huge way. It’s all image driven. Modern Siren is based on the whole myth of the siren. The idea that the sirens are these mythical beings, these incredible women playing on their island.
Now we all, on my blog, use the term here – we’re on Siren Island where you’re just busy having fun playing on Siren Island and men come from everywhere in their boats and they’re so drawn to you, so drawn to you as a siren that they crash their boat of freedom, of single bachelorhood, and they climb up the rocks to be with you on Siren Island. Basically it’s about drawing men to you as opposed to feeling that you need to go out and chase men, and most of us feel we have to go out and do something, when – actually – we are magnets for men! It’s all about sirenhood and it’s all about images. There’s eight essential pieces plus a lot of other tools.
That’s where my famous The Six E’s come from. Modern Siren is about being an invitation. It’s about opening up your heart and it’s about letting a man in and it’s about letting your vulnerability and who you are radiate out, so that men everywhere can see that and feel that and they just beat a path to your door and it happens.
When you work with Modern Siren, your whole world turns upside down. It really works. It was one of the most fun things I’ve ever done. Modern Siren, like you say, is lots of imagery and I know one of the other popular programs is Love Scripts and is that something that grew out of Modern Siren or did that come as one of the other steps from Commitment Blueprint?
Rori: Love Scripts is part of my Rori Raye mantra, which kind of encompasses all of these seven steps. The mantra goes: Trust your Boundaries, Follow your Feelings, Choose your Words, Be Surprised. All of my programs, including Modern Siren, incorporate the “Boundary” issue in all kinds of different imagery ways and explain what that actually means – that it’s not a wall between you and a man. It’s this inner strength that you feel, that you just believe you have.
Love Scripts basically comes from following your feelings and choosing your words. What I really discovered in coaching women is that every woman who works with me basically asks me “What do I say. What do I say to him? When he says this, what do I say? When this is happening, what do I say?” Because my whole idea is you get what you want without even asking for it. “How do I get it without asking for it” and also my whole method is about being direct, straightforward and honest and truthful and exactly sharing your feeling state exactly as it is.
No strategy, no games. It’s a very man-friendly way of “being.” Very clear. Very emotionally open.
I was always “scripting” with women. I would role play, so I’d say I’m him and you’ll be you and then I’ll coach you. We would start and it’s very slow going. I call each “exchange” where you say something and then the man says something a “round.” Or where the man says something and then you say something.
If you can get to two, three rounds, you’re doing amazing. Basically I’ve discovered that by scripting an entire conversation, it pretty much goes that way. It’s pretty reliable, because when you’re in a relationship with a man, or even just on a date with him, he’s pretty predictable.
Guys are pretty predictable. You ask the same questions. “How are you doing? How’s it going at work? What’d you do today? What do you do for a living?” The same questions get asked consistently and so, I scripted.
I have you script. I have a woman script the answers in a very personal, emotionally open way and it’s just mind blowing to even start thinking in words this way. I created an entire program for it. One program is for if you’re dating. One program is if you’re in a relationship, but actually you need them both because the dating one is for every time you meet a person and the relationship one – you’re going to be IN a relationship if you use the dating one! You’re going to be in a relationship.
It’s basically putting words in your mouth. It’s giving you actual scripts for different occasions, hundreds of them, and then I teach you how to script, how to create your own. If there’s a unique situation I haven’t covered, I teach you how to create your own. That has just turned out to be a lifesaver for so many women. You can just kind of pull it out of a hat.
I really am big on memorizing. Steve: I can believe that. As you know I’m in the dating world and I have to say one of the things that makes me smile, well, I’m always surprised at, is how far and wide your stuff has spread, because I’ll be talking to a girl and she’ll say one of your set lines and I don’t say anything – I just smile because I know what’s going on, but I don’t want to spoil it for them because that’s their fun. Rori: Most men could not care less. They don’t hear it. You could say the word “feel” a thousand times in one paragraph and they wouldn’t notice it. They would just notice that they feel so much happier being around you.
So memorizing some lines and building your own based on the guidelines is a great thing to do. Steve: I can totally understand that, because when you’re out dating, not so much in relationships because you’re more comfortable, but if you’re feeling nervous or distracted or whatever, it really does help to have just a set thing to say even if it’s just the thing that helps you get started. It really does help. I can understand why people like Love Scripts so much. Rori: Thank you. Steve: There have been times when I’ve actually called a girl on what they’re saying and said, “I know you’re using Rori Raye’s stuff,” and they just kind of look surprised and then want to talk about it. The conversations I’ve had, the people I’ve spoken to, have been very enthusiastic, so if you ever worry that Rori’s products are a scam, I can tell you, I know they’re definitely helping people.
Rori: Let me ask you this. If you have a conversation with a woman and you know she’s using my, let’s say, “Feeling Message” Tool. Does that actually bond you to her more quickly? Does it start to create more attraction, even though she continues to use them, do you actually feel much more comfortable with her while she’s doing it, even though you know?
Steve: Yes, even though I know. We have that phrase “tainted by knowledge.” I think my thing is that it’s not just the fact that she’s saying those things.
It’s the fact that she’s made the effort and she’s actually got your stuff and she’s actually learned your stuff and she’s using it. That is what makes me way more open to that person.
Rori: How interesting. Does it feel like a more authentic conversation to you? Steve: Yes, it does actually. Rori: Because the whole point is to be who you are, not to just use somebody elses words, but to find your own feelings and express them in a clear, honest way.
So to wrap up, we’ve been talking with Rori about all of her different techniques and skills and tools and the place you really want to start is. I actually read those emails from beginning to end and they’re always great.
I will tell you they’re long and they are packed with information. You get little tools and techniques that you can use, an actual step-by-step sometimes. That’s definitely the place to start, and then if you’re ever thinking of getting one of the products, the best one to get, because it’s kind of the foundation of everything, is the eBook, which is inexpensive. It’s the best place to start and that really will kind of get you kick-started into making the best out of your current relationship and also dating and interacting with men. So, Rori, thank you so much for stopping by and giving us some of your time and interesting and educational information.
Rori: Thank you. You’re welcome. Steve: So that’s our from me at LoveRomanceRelationship.com. Hope you enjoyed our chat with Rori and we’ll see you next time.
Take Yourself From 'Insecure' To Magnetic - Fast If you've ever been seeing a man - and very carefully not been demanding or had a 'talk' about where the 'relationship is going,' not pressured him or asked for any kind of commitment - and then he says 'I need space.' As if you HAD been pressuring him, I know exactly how frustrating that can be.
You want to scream 'I didn't ask you for a commitment!' And that's where the problem is. No matter what we do and say, our 'vibe' is what our man hears. He may not know how, but he knows what you 'really' want even if you're hiding it not only from him, but from YOURSELF.
How does that work? And how can we solve this so that we don't lose a man for EITHER reason - either because we don't make it clear what we really want and so we somehow seem like we're 'withholding' or pretending' to be one way when we really feel another way - or by flat-out pushing and pressuring him?
It's all so easy if you're not in love with him. I mean - if you feel like he's a friend, and you don't have the 'tingles' when you're with him and you don't care if he calls or if you see him - it's easy. In that situation, there isn't ANY part of you that wants MORE.
You're probably looking for the man you REALLY want to show up, and are just 'making do' with the guy in front of you now. But what if you DO care for a man? What if you DO feel the 'tingles' and you DO want MORE with him? And what if you tell him you DON'T want more, and try to be casual?
What if you never mention your dreams for your own future? Canguilhem The Normal And The Pathological Pdf Printer. What if you 'play it' casual? Well - what happens when we try to take the pressure off of a man by steering clear of our REAL desires for a REAL relationship is that we make him feel UNSAFE. That's right. And I know it sounds wrong, because you'd think it would do the opposite.
You'd think he'd feel SAFE. Because this is what he 'gets' from being with us: He 'senses,' on a deep level, because of the 'vibe' we put out, and because we can't help feeling what we feel on some level we might not even be aware of (we may think we're so good at 'playing' it casual we don't realize that he can pick up on our 'seriousness' anyway) that we WANT him, and WANT a relationship with him - but that, for some reason, we're holding back on letting him see how we really feel. And the moment he picks up that you're holding back - he feels unsafe. He figures, on some deep level he's not even aware of, that if you can't handle YOUR feelings - you certainly won't be able to handle HIS feelings. Men are a mass of jumbled emotions just as much as we are - and their biggest dream for love is to be totally ACCEPTED for who they are - ALL parts of them. That's what makes them feel safe. And if you don't love and accept yourself completely - even the parts of yourself you think are weak, ugly and yucky - then he'll have difficulty feeling safe with you.
Even your boundaries in what you will and will not tolerate from a man make him feel safe. He feels that if you can take care of yourself emotionally, his emotions - and his secrets - will be safe with you! To really learn how to do this - how to make a man feel safe and draw him in close to you, and how to keep that balance of WANTING a real, close, intimate relationship, and letting him SEE that, without pushing him away by asking HIM to provide it for you, you'll want to sign up for my free e-letters and take a look at my new program 'The Modern Siren'. I know this balance of inner strength and outer softness seems very subtle - but you can do it so easily. It's a very 'organic' process, from the inside out - and it's FUN!
Here's a letter from Laurie, who's struggling with this issue - she' hasn't 'demanded' anything from her man - so she's upset that he suddenly needs 'space': 'Dear Rori, I recently downloaded your e-book on 'Have the Relationship You Want' because I know I have a problem. However, it wasn't my own mind that made me act upon downloading it - it was a 5 month dating 'relationship' that started my search.
I meet this quirky guy on St. Patrick's day just this year. In the beginning I didn't jump on the dates right away. I waited a few weeks before deciding to go out. We started dating once a week. He called me, he asked me out by Tuesday for the weekend. Things were wonderful for the first 2 1/2 months.
He was open about being recently divorced and he knew I was very concerned about that but he assured me he was okay. Then my 15 year-old niece came to visit - he was excited to entertain the both of us, and all 3 of us did something every weekend. Then something dramatically changed - my niece had been calling him my 'boyfriend,' and right after she left he stated he was not ready to be in a relationship and he needed his freedom. He said that having to see his ex-wife a lot recently made him realize he wasn't ready for a 'relationship'. I was upset with him.
I never 'asked' for a relationship. I never put any restrictions on him. I wanted to get to know him and learn who 'he' was - without me 'controlling' any aspect of his actions. We tried to continue for another month but the tension was too high. I'd already received rejection and I became a 'different' person. Always unsure of what was happening.
Also questioning the situation because I was hurt. I have NEVER been in a relationship where I can take it slow and try not to guide or manipulate the course. I should NOT be this upset because it has only been 5 months. I want 'it' and I want 'it' right away and if it is not happening on my time frame I make the other person miserable. By actions of emotional overload because I can't stop 'talking' about this issues at hand.
He said he wants to 'slow down,' and I don't know if I can handle slowing down - but I should be able to. This is where EVERY relationship ends the same way - at the first sign of 'uncertainty' I freak out and start wondering and asking questions that are pushing men away. My friends say I just have to meet someone who can handle me - but deep down I know I need to change. I guess I am scared to use this existing situation to try putting your exercises and advice into practice - it will hurt so bad if I know he is 'dating' but I should be dating and not worrying about what he is doing. Can you give me any words of advice? I am EXTREMELY frightened to try to start fixing myself now because I keep worrying about what he is doing and not living my life. Thanks, Laurie' Fear is a bummer.
It stops us from getting what we want, when all fear was ever designed to do is protect us from harm. So - how can we use fear the way it's meant to be used - to be a red flag and a warning - and NOT let it run us and get in the way of our true happiness? This is an issue therapists and authors have been dealing with for centuries.
And although I can't solve it for you in one eLetter, I can help you with a baby-step that will put you on the right path, and show you how to keep moving down that right path in an easy, fun way. Fear is NEVER going to go away.
The Nasty Voice inside your head that's telling you to 'Be Afraid' is never going to go away. The horror movie business would disappear if fear weren't the overwhelming emotion for nearly everyone. So - the trick is to LIVE with it. In fact, to use the ENERGY of fear to GET what you want!
Okay, so let's get specific for Laurie's situation. I truly want to say 'Bravo' to Laurie for saying that even though her friends say she needs a man who can 'handle' her - she knows, deep down that the way to go is to make changes in herself, first. There are whole sets of Tools in all of my products that deal with getting past fear, and let's look at a tiny baby-step you can do now. It moves around your body, it moves from one idea to another, from one image to another, from one situation to another. If you are afraid of moths and then overcome that fear, it doesn't mean you are through with FEAR for life - there will always be fear. And it GETS SMALLER, too.
You can work to make fear smaller, or you can work to make fear bigger. This is where you have a choice. Right now, it's easier and less scary for Laurie to focus on what's going on with her man than to focus on herself and her fears about getting a passionate, thrilling, satisfying life whether or not her man is in it. (I know it sounds worse, but our minds are fiercely weird sometimes.) This fear is about the Unknown - about what MIGHT happen. Since we have no way to truly know what WILL happen, we're always reacting with our fear of what MIGHT happen. That fear stops us in our tracks, and pretty much pushes our men away.
So - I want you to CHOOSE to make fear smaller. And how do you do that?
With baby-steps. That means you take a baby-step toward what you're most afraid of.
And when you discover you've not only lived through that but feel actually STRONGER because of the step you took - you'll feel excited to take ANOTHER baby-step. And with every baby-step, some old fears get smaller - and maybe some new ones get bigger. That's why SUCCESS is usually so much scarier than failure! At least we KNOW what failure is all about - but success seems almost unknowable. But guess what - even while fears are moving around and getting smaller and growing bigger and then getting smaller again - YOU'VE MOVED!! Yep - YOU'RE closer to SUCCESS!
So for Laurie - a great baby-step would be to start doing something for herself. Not just the normal things - going out with girlfriends or getting a massage - but TRYING something NEW.
Perhaps volunteering to help others through an organization. Perhaps signing up on a dating site or trying speed dating. Perhaps starting a new business. Let me know about every baby-step you take, I'm thrilled to hear how fear moves around you, in you - and how it gets smaller and smaller until you get exactly what you want!